Why Time Management Doesn’t Work

I have a new YOU Coaching client.  “Janie” stated that her biggest challenge was the overall chaotic busyness in her life.    Boy does that sound familiar.  I think almost everyone probably feels that way at some point in their life.  She felt that this business was causing a lot of the other challenges she was dealing with at this time.

After exploring that thought, I showed her how her busyness was actually a RESULT or a FRUIT of an underlying issue.  We had to determine what those issues were before her busyness would correct itself.

Janie, as have most other home based or small business moms, has used several different types of time management programs.  She’d start out using them to help tame her chaos only to find that she wouldn’t stick to it in the long run.  Why was it that these time management programs didn’t work for her?

Because those programs are tools used to correct the result of something rather than the cause.

Imagine an apple tree.  Go to that tree and select the first apple you see.  How does that apple look to you?  Is it shiny and perfectly shaped?  Now take a bite.  Is it sweet with just the right amount of juice and texture?

Or is the apple bruised, off-color and misshapen?  Does it taste dried out and bland?

If you got the bad fruit, will you attempt to correct the fruit?  Will you try to spray paint it the right color and add a little tape to make it the right shape?  This is what most of us do with our lives.  We look at our fruits and try to make them prettier.  All this does, though, is to continue to produce bad fruits.

Instead, the farmer will tend to the roots of his tree.  He’ll determine whether the tree needs more water or nutrients and he’ll provide for it.  This is what will ultimately encourage the whole tree to produce the most beautiful fruits.

And so it goes with our lives.  In order for us to produce the best results, we must tend to the underlying causes.  When we struggle with something that just doesn’t seem to be working no matter what we do, it is most likely because we are attempting to fix the results and not the cause.

Therefore, as I work with Janie, we will be working to determine the root cause of why her time management programs haven’t worked and what causes her never ending chaotic busyness.  Once we address and resolve that, any system will work just fine for her.

Nicole Bandes

Nicole has scaled her own personal mountain to climb out of ordinary. For over 20 years, Nicole Bandes has studied the most effective methods to increase happiness and success in her own life and in business. She has gone on to helped thousands of people in their own personal journeys to reach their goals. Contact Nicole if you are ready to stop being ordinary and have a guided tour to reach your summit of success.

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8 Comments

  1. Excellent piece!

    Often times it’s a Moms belief about what a mom is that keeps them so busy… doing things for everyone else, not delegating, putting everyone before themselves. It’s not always easy to uncover what that belief is.

  2. Nicole Bandes

    Charlotte, you are very right. “Janie” has expectations of herself that create the busyness in her life. Once she can learn to let go of some of those expectations, it will be far easier for her to manage her time.

  3. Agreed, I have found if we don’t tend to the beliefs underlying planning, organization, time, then no technique or tool will be sufficient.

    Dave

  4. Enjoyed this post and your points ring true. Anyone who is manically busy has something deeper going on. Often the busyness is used to drown out emotional distress, feelings of inadequacy, perfectionist tendency etc.
    Of course the more people fall into the trap of this manic busyness the harder it can become for them to see the real issue and a way out.
    Slowing down is always a good starting point!

  5. Nicole Bandes

    Thanks Dave!

  6. Nicole Bandes

    Kath, I agree. But when slowing down, actually take the time to evaluate the situation.

  7. Maybe she likes the “rush” she gets from being so busy, so needed, so popular …

  8. Nicole Bandes

    That could be Joan. There are many benefits to sticking to unhealthy habits that we can discover.

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