I have a new YOU Coaching client. “Janie” stated that her biggest challenge was the overall chaotic busyness in her life. Boy does that sound familiar. I think almost everyone probably feels that way at some point in their life. She felt that this business was causing a lot of the other challenges she was dealing with at this time.
After exploring that thought, I showed her how her busyness was actually a RESULT or a FRUIT of an underlying issue. We had to determine what those issues were before her busyness would correct itself.
Janie, as have most other home based or small business moms, has used several different types of time management programs. She’d start out using them to help tame her chaos only to find that she wouldn’t stick to it in the long run. Why was it that these time management programs didn’t work for her?
Because those programs are tools used to correct the result of something rather than the cause.
Imagine an apple tree. Go to that tree and select the first apple you see. How does that apple look to you? Is it shiny and perfectly shaped? Now take a bite. Is it sweet with just the right amount of juice and texture?
Or is the apple bruised, off-color and misshapen? Does it taste dried out and bland?
If you got the bad fruit, will you attempt to correct the fruit? Will you try to spray paint it the right color and add a little tape to make it the right shape? This is what most of us do with our lives. We look at our fruits and try to make them prettier. All this does, though, is to continue to produce bad fruits.
Instead, the farmer will tend to the roots of his tree. He’ll determine whether the tree needs more water or nutrients and he’ll provide for it. This is what will ultimately encourage the whole tree to produce the most beautiful fruits.
And so it goes with our lives. In order for us to produce the best results, we must tend to the underlying causes. When we struggle with something that just doesn’t seem to be working no matter what we do, it is most likely because we are attempting to fix the results and not the cause.
Therefore, as I work with Janie, we will be working to determine the root cause of why her time management programs haven’t worked and what causes her never ending chaotic busyness. Once we address and resolve that, any system will work just fine for her.